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February 20, 2025 at 5:58 pm

Stop listening to stupid advises given here. Judging the husband based on that simple fact is pure idiocy which most of the commenters here have indulged in. Marriage is not just about you and your partner and your kid atleast not in India. People need to be taken care of at some point in life or other. What if the brother developed those issues after your marriage? I understand you not being told about this was wrong. But there are many issues in life which we don’t know if they will solve themselves in the future or not.
When you marry someone you marry into their family and you become a part of that family. You would expect the same help from your in laws if something similar were to befall you in future. If you always behave like an outsider to a family you will remain an outsider to them. A family pulls through tough situations together.
Firstly assess what taking care of BIL actually entails. Whether he is bedridden or not. If he’s functional and his issues are under control. If all he needs is a loving environment and meals it’s not a big deal.
If the situation is worse you need to discuss how your husband can help share the responsibility as it will be too overwhelming. Stress to him you are ready but will need his help. Whether he needs a caretaker or not. Discuss and find a middle ground. Such situations arise in every family and marriage and finding ways to work them out is how you make a marriage work. Juvenile options like running away are not justified unless you face abuse or there are compatibility issues.
Have a happy life ahead.

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