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UI found out my boyfriend (not sure what else to call him now) got married to another woman he had been dating for a year longer than he had been dating me. I found out one week after the marriage. Worse, I didn’t have proof. All the chats were deleted because my parents were visiting me so I had cleared up my phone (all hail snoopy indian parents!) and i never used to click any pictures of us because i didn’t have a habit of clicking pictures. i reached out to the woman he married, his friends, his family. his family straight up blocked me and told him (i know this because he called me every time in anger when his family called). i am not sure if they believed me. the woman, i gave her as much proof as i could, she also blocked me after a couple of days. of those who believed me were only his friends but there wasn’t much to be done.
it’s not easy to be standing against the one you love. it’s even more difficult when the world doesn’t even believe you. i was asked degrading questions, his sister even went so far to call me a fool to have believed her brother. i have been disrespected in every way a woman possibly could be for no fault of mine, so i understand her hesitance. there is no kindness for the other woman. all the elders accused me of “trying to break the marriage”. I was asked, now he’s married so why are you doing this? only because i was at home waiting for him to return so that i could show him the estimates of our marriage.
i have been left so lonely that the only person i can talk to is actually the perpetrator himself. i feel like i fall apart every now and then and it feels like the day i found out and i go berserk all over again.
be grateful you found out before. be kind to the woman because you have no idea how much courage it takes to speak the truth and to live the aftermath.
