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Uif you fear her father will harm your family then when will you meet her family? When will they meet yours?
he doesn’t even know your name, ask your gf to reveal everything, your name, CTC, etc. you are well off. Arrange a meeting. you meet her family. then they can really know you. if they like you all the problem will be solved.
Right now, Her father has imagined things, probably all the Worst case scenarios. break their imagination as soon as possible. Reason: how we think is how we feel. how we feel is how we think. but there is catch. thoughts come and go but emotions pile up. So if you think some negativity and you feel negativity, if you repeat this process for some time, then your emotions take control of your thoughts. now, you feel negativity first and then negative thoughts automatically follows. then hate becomes life long. that’s why people who wait for years for parents to accept their partner, their parents may end up getting them married to each other but that hates never goes away. Keep this from happening.
Act fast, tell your gf to manipulate her family (only other option is they hate her for life so we don’t want that). her father is being lunatic, tell her to show more tantrum than him. first, reveal your details. arrange meeting as soon as possible. if they don’t like you then show lunatic behavior. tell her to use threats like me mar jaungi, me kisi aur se shadi nahi karugi bhale hi kuvari mar jau, agar apne mujhe ya mere bf ko kuch kiya to apko fansi ki saja me dilvaungi, apko meri khushi ki nahi padi bas apni ijjat ki padi he, are shadi me log ayege khana khake bakwas karke chale jayege, ijjat hava hava me hoti he us chij ke liye aap apni beti ki puri jindagi dav pe laga denge, aap apni beti se pyar karte he ya nahi? aap mujhe khush dekhna chahte he ya nhi?
i think you got the idea. she must be vocal, assertive, dominant.
UHas your mother beaten her in childhood?
What are her pain points she tells when she beat her? What the cause of resentment?Fear of police may Stop her from beating mom but she will resentment you & mom more. She will feel isolated and her suppressed emotions will blast at some point. This is just postponing the trouble. Not the solution.
Get her to therapy without making her feel like mad otherwise she won’t cooperate. If she opens up there without any of you being around there. There is a possibility of solution.
Where is the dad?
If she is beating your mom in EXTREME, then involve police and then get her therapy.
UNALOther comments has given you a legal advice & you should follow it. I want to give you a generic advice. Be pessimistic in relationship. He was showing all the red flags all the time, you were so optimistic. Don’t do that again in next relationship. Ok?
Making you pregnant was a trap to keep you emotionallly entangled as servant in their home.
You deserve better even if you think you don’t, you deserve better. Keep high standards and don’t follow parents blindly. Always check inlaws with your own intelligent.
All the best for your legal bettle ahead. Maa chod do us bhadwe ki.
