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UAlso if your family wants to gift you anything for your security in future be it jewellery, cash or FD. Take it but you don’t have to advertise it in front of your in-laws or even your husband. 95/100 times they will think they have a right on it. And in every situation they would ask you to use it. So be a smart woman and keep your parents gift in your own separate bank locker.UIndian traditions are archaic and shitty. Don’t listen to idiots here justifying dowry as they mostly benefit from these traditions. Sati and casteism is also our tradition. Do we need to follow them? NO
Your in-laws think they are very smart. They want dowry but are not able to ask directly and it’s illegal so doing it in the way a majority of Indians do. Saying they don’t want anything and then slowly as wedding day arrives, they want everything. Asking bride’s side to bear all the expenses and give expensive gifts. This is DOWRY. No one ask for old fashioned furniture and kitchen stuff anymore.
Go 50-50 in wedding expenses and do not give anything extra. No cash and no jewellery. This will set the precedence early on and they’ll understand that they can’t manipulate you and your family. Do observe your fiancé and how much he is standing up for you.
You’ll get to know during this drama if you chose the right partner and if he is worth it.
