That was my take on life and the OP’s situation
That’s why OP made this public post so that people come up with their own opinions and suggestions/solutions to his situation. In the end he is the one who will take the call/descision.
So yes, for me
Self Respect > Love/Relationship, and I will go by it. If you have your own, go with it instead of asking why someone else has a different opinion that doesn’t match yours.