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U> we were surprised that they no longer talk to my ex or even see her.
This is interesting ! In my case, I slowly noticed that most of my ex’s family kept their distance from her. Like during phere, not a single family member was near the mandap . I guess how good someone is with their cousins is a sign.
Anyhow hang tight in their man, they have nothing going for them, probably why they don’t show up, a couple more dates and few more months and you will find peace !
Uyeah divorce on the basis on cruelty. This can also be used to threaten – “court will give me divorce on cruelty. you won’t get a $ and your reputation will be ruined ! ” . Its harsh, but we can only be nice to nice people.Is there any one in her family who is reasonable ? In my case neg happened between our family members where everyone kept their cool, otherwise she had other plans.
Unot sure tbh. My lawyers are seniors are in the family, so I trust them blindly. But perhaps because she was kind of psycho or to eliminate liability. In case I say something that they can use against me… For me not having to receive random made up hate that she overthought herself into making was a huge reliefUSo the advise given to me by my lawyer:1. don’t have direct contact with her. If she is abusive, simply block her everywhere. only communicate through lawyer/some family member.
2. show no hurry. not even a little bit
3. Take the power position, threaten with 0 alimony. Threaten things like , even if court says so, I still won’t give. I’ll leave country without giving you divorce. Show strength ! In my case, demand also started with 1cr, but we said 5 L , finally settled at 15L.
4. live your life. do things / solo travel, remove expectations for case to end. I am older than you and only when I completely let go, did I find peace !No they won’t go to high court. lawyer’s are expensive, they don’t have unlimited resources, and want to end it as well, no matter what they pretend to act like.
It will be okay,
btw have you filed cruelty case ?
UBro ! what the fuck.. you essentially described my ex wife ! lolBut there is more, many of the things you mentioned are classic BPD symptoms – borderline personality disorder, not to be confused with bipolar
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any lengths to destroy you
severe inferiority complex.
manipulate people
always have a rosy picture about her relationships.
There’s never a middle ground for her in how to maintain relationships.
unempathetic
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These are all class BPD / narcissism behaviours.See here: [https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/)
Is it BPD or narcissism ? If she has severe fear of abandonment, clinginess , then its BPD, elseif sense of grandoise, superiority, then its narc. PS: am no expert.
UFor fucks sake your mom is suicidal. If there is ever a que to throw ‘log kya kahenge’ this is it.You have to be very tough at this point, she needs to be confined to a psychiatric facility. BPD or something worse is here. Tie her up, throw her in the hospital.
