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Ucheck [practo.com](http://practo.com)UI can understand that. I’m dealing with a dementia patient with BPSD. It’s very challenging.
Maybe take a step back. Consult a psychologist, tell them all the history and ask for ways to convince your brother for treatment. Somehow I feel, your brother is looking for a confession from your father that his way of handling impacted your brother’s personality. .. But a psychologist can tell better.
Good luck.
UIt is not above ‘agreeing’ to everything and ‘letting go’ of the aggressive behavior. He needs treatment + at the same time needs to be emphatically reminded of good vs bad behaviour. Do not treat him as a 27 yo but say a teen who will be defiant yet needs guidance.Take him to a good psychiatrist. And may be counselling sessions for your parents on how to handle this .
At the same time, you need to take care of yourself too. This can impact your mental peace.
UThis.From your brother’s POV – he’s 27 but he had a terrible childhood. Who knows how it impacted him or changed his personality. At this point he’s frustrated by his failures and aggressive that your father did nothing to prevent it and also that you are doing well.
Your brother needs treatment and not therapy. And your parents need to handle that. They brought a child into the world , treated him badly and now just cry seeing how it all turned out.
You decide what do you want to do. Either put your mental health at stake and keep watching this shitshow. eventually move out. Or make your parents realize their mistake and get them to do what’s right.
Your brother needs both the treatment and love. It will take some time before the ice breaks. The day you get to see first empathic response should mark the beginning of reversal.
UNAL.This is serious and totally unacceptable. Your brother would need a medical checkup to rule out any injuries + counselling for a possible PTSD.
No school wants to take onus of rowdy kids and their behaviour as this usually stems from their home environment. And any sensible school will do the following
* Call their parents and ask for a written undertaking to accept what their kids did, that it will not repeat in future and that they will not take any kind of revenge with your brother take in writing
* This can be done in front of you or you can be given a copy of the undertaking.Anyone would be enraged when their loved ones are hurt, but think thought it calmly how far you want to go and accordingly pursuit the next step.
There are few things to track
* Schools fear Education Department and Ministry of Education
* Find the contact of education Department of your city/state
* You can write to them copying medical report, your interaction with principal and other details.
* You can refer to recent incident of Kerala medical college raggingand highlight concern that such bullies if not handled can go to extreme
* If you intend to pursuit the legal angle, the first thing you do is lawyer up.
* Do not reach out to school on your own.
* Is the school CCTV covered ? If yes, it’s highly likely that incident is captured
* You can also seek inputs from other kids who can verify what those bullies did
* Be prepped up for push back from parents of the bullies
* Send copies of every thing to Education Department and Ministry of EducationHaving said that, unless mental issues, kids are not bully by birth. It is their own experiences that turn them disruptive. Many parents are not able to or do not pay attention leading to their kids suffer and turn bullies. Which is why counselling of parents is equally important.
At your end, ensure that your brother heals both physically and psychologically.
