Not an advice to the OP but consider this an advice to all else who don’t want to get into this position.
Fuck your women right!. You must fuck her brains out and gently let them know you could snap there neck if you chose too.
All this Vanilla sex has led to women getting ratchet.
My advice to all men, make sure you dick your women down real nice and real proper, your actions in bed dictate her behaviour with you. Cannot be soft!!.