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ETransfer the loan. Once done go to the bank and give a sweet dabba to the manager with waste paper inside.
Do this only after completion of the transfer and closure of everything in the mentioned bank. A sweet box to the manager’s manager will also do the trick.
EWho told you I’m traumatizing anyone?
You are a funny man. Did you not read that I’ve taken a back step wrt his learnings and will address it only when he grows older.I’m not disinheriting anyone. I’m giving away 3 acres out of 80 in the village. He has enough in the city anyways. You want to bet he gives away the 77 acres to his cousins. BTW my son is 10 years old so calm down….let this be a learning…ask questions first before you pass judgement.
But you as a young blood are supposed to do what you exactly did. Ab shant ho jao Gadadhari Bhim. 🙂
EI welcome all suggestions at this time unknown bhai/dost. I used to be sad but not anymore because I have understood that I’m not in control. Our control is just an illusion.
Thank you for the encouragement. I’m not giving away my property in entirety. I’m just not giving him the “HOME” part. I’m giving away just 3 out of 80 acres so my son still has 77 acres of land plus everything else I own. I also don’t think he is going back to the village and he will mind. In all probability he will give away the 77 to his cousins. He has enough in tier 1 and 2 cities.EAwesome question. I’ve been pondering on that too for sometime now.I always come back to me. I wasn’t serious about my roots/culture/language. I should have had given more thought like I do now. I was careless with my roots/background and now it is teaching me what happens when one is not serious. I see what my parents saw in me.
All this chasing money/career one tends to take them lightly. Money came but legacy (not individual) went away.
Now the 6th Generation won’t care about the culture of the place which bears my families name. I know I’ll be judged as few comments can’t see past religion even in this post. But in this case religion is just skin deep.
The astrologer was right he predicted this when I was in my very late teens. Except 1 thing whatever he had said is coming true. I’ll leave this earth a very lonely men, lonely in a crowd.
EI’ve 80+ acres and I’ve given away 3 acres…. where did religion come here?
Where I’m from all religions touch their elders’feet. It has nothing to do with religion ….it’s culture. Travelling helpsEWhere did religion come here? Is the value system of your home made of just religion? How about language/manerism/culture?Gosh being young and passing judgement was so much easier
EOk…very succinct!
As they say when two people are playing chess the spectators always has the better moves. Maybe you are that spectator.Thank you though.
BTW what’s the age of my son since you have all the answers.
ENa bhai…I understand what the kid can go through if we fight over him. I’ve taken a back step for his sake. I’ll talk to him once he is old enough.All discussions were there. I promised to stay with her, thick and thin to her mother. I’m not going to break my promise. I’ve never broken one and won’t break this one either.
Didn’t feel like a lecture though:)
EThe first few years were alright. All lovi dovy and stuff. Then our learnings and moralities kicked in. Then kids came and began the shattered dreams productions.
My learnings taught me to touch the feet of my parents I still do but her’s didn’t. My kiddo is lost in between 2 different learnings and now doesn’t do anything. It didn’t matter when I was young but their values are understood once you are older.Remember a father not able to instill values to his kid/s is the most horrible situation one has to go through. You only understand once you are older.
Din ka khit pit to chor hi do. Your family has a legacy and it doesn’t matter how small or big all will bite the dust.
I’ll be giving away my ancestral home to my nephew because it’s clear my son will not be able to uphold the value system/sanctity of the place I called home which needs protecting.
I sowed the seed and this life will involve a lot of asking for forgiveness for it.
If it was not for my son who is my responsibility I’d have taken the route of vairagya already but I don’t want the compounding effects of my mistakes so here I’m willing away time and only doing my duties.EAs someone who did an inter-religion marriage – if I can roll back time then knowing what I know today, I’d not do it.Not saying that you will face the same issues. You were very young as was I but love fades and life is a long journey. The compromises made to keep this going begin to add up quite quickly.
Good luck to you. May you have a wonderful married life.
