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INot worth the effort, but it’s a valuable lesson. Here’s a suggestion that worked like a charm for 3 of my ex-es. I never bought them anything, rather I helped them get a credit card in their own name and paid a little more than minimum amount every month. For ex number 1, when we broke up, she had ~80k worth of debt, ex number 2 had ~29k and last one had over 1 lakh.
4th one got all bills paid once we got married.
IWithdraw/cancel the reimbursement request from the system. If there is a mail thread, inform there about this citing the reason as “not comfortable sharing bank statement”.ISame thing happened with my cousin. He went the illegal route (vacated the apartment and changed locks with some friends and made a complaint to the cops). The tenants sued. Case went on for 2 years until they gave up. Case was in cousin’s city where the tenants could not find accommodation (cousin would inform prospective owners regarding his issue) and had to travel from Gurgaon for every hearing. Cousin’s lawyer kept requesting for continuance for various reasons to wait them out. Eventually they gave up and stopped showing up in court even after judge issued summons. Cousin won by default.INot sure I understand – you had your photos online on insta and your friend posted them on OF and listed your insta link. Apart from the uptick in views, what’s the complaint? It’s not like the photos were not online under public view anyway. Is the complaint that you are not getting a portion of the OF money?IMost of my relationships were abusive (me getting abused) because I only saw love when being abused. It took years of therapy and my wife to heal me. I did spent a lot of money on games. But it’s pointless to compare, because no two people react to abuse the same way. I managed to come back because I hit rock bottom and I had to take charge of my life for my son. I was adamant not to be a father like my dad was.IThere’s no telling how physical abuse would shape a person. Your father physically abused your brother “if he had bad grades” means he used to beat him up at his every other mistake as well. So his whole persona is based on that – the only sense of wrong he has is something that will get him beaten up. Something that doesn’t get him beaten up is right. Now that nothing gets him beaten up, he’s doing nothing wrong. You won’t get it because you didn’t get beat up in childhood to teach you the difference between right and wrong. Of course he would blame them for his breakup – when he was doing something wrong in his relationship, his father didn’t beat him up like always to stop him. Of course he will track his ex all the time, as his dad did with him and probably everyone now says that it was a form of love.I was physically abused by my father all throughout my childhood, teenage and until I was 21 and moved out. The rest of my extended family knew about this and did little to nothing to help me. Today I don’t have a relationship with my dad and suddenly all of my extended family thinks that I should let bygones be bygones. As if, the first 21 years of my life didn’t happen. Apparently beating me up was my father’s love language. I tell them that 20 years later, when they would blame me for not having a relationship with my dad today, I would ask them to let bygones be bygones.
My point is that people who saw the abuse and didn’t do anything to stop it has no right asking the abused to suddenly change because it’s uncomfortable for the abuser now. Your parents (both of them) were abusers. Your dad by making the physical abuse and your mom by not stopping it. And now they are crying because it’s uncomfortable for them and you being the golden child can’t see anything wrong of your parents.
ICheck the mail where HR confirmed permanent WFH, check the wording whether it mentions that it can change later.If it says it, not much you can do. However, in the off chance it’s not there, forward it to your HR and just say that you will keep working from home.
Whatever they try to make you do afterwards, no matter what they say, they actually want you to resign, they don’t want to fire you. For this, they may make it very difficult for you, but if you can disconnect from the situation emotionally, it won’t matter. If they fire you, they will be vulnerable to a lawsuit and they don’t want that.
Please understand that you are just a resource to them. They want you to come back only because they know you can’t and you will probably resign from the pressure. They simply don’t want to employ new mothers who have a different priority than work.
II have actually long thought about this. I agree that going the violent route will be a lot better, because usually the lawyers on the wife’s side would add them to the charge anyway. This way, there won’t be anyone to hire a lawyer. Husband won’t be harassed by the law, because harassment is actually getting shit from the law without doing anything wrong.Disclaimer: This is all hypothetical and satire.
