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MHmm.. I think the problem is with the structure and expectations out of arranged marriage. The concession I can give her is if her life was in danger. But i think there should be a better courtship period to build trust. like if she isn’t able to trust her family members then 3 meetings wouldn’t have been enough to prosper trust with your cousin. Wish you and your family the best here.MHonestly writing up the girl not saying anything as she is shy isn’t the right justification either. Her family is to be blamed, but the girl had to get out of the threatening household, I can’t blame her for trying to save her life at the cost of divorce. Ideally your family should have also had exclusive discussion with the girl if you really thought her opinion mattered.MHey, I am sorry you are going through this. My husband cheated and i am having hard time getting the divorce. And I spent a major part of my hard earned money on him during marriage and even post separation. I am sharing my suggestion after going through months of turmoil and seeing how divorce cases really work
I know you will right now and you want justice. But sadly indian courts will not give that to you. As when she was being physical with her boyfriend i don’t think in “,legal” terms it is constituted as cheating. Emotional cheating is also not considered as cheating. If they file cases against you, yes it would be very difficult for them to prove it, but they are right, they will delay divorce proceedings. And you will just be going around the court with no justice.
I don’t know if you can get the divorce annulled then do that. Or else just go with mutual divorce, there is no better deal here. Most of the contested divorce ends up in mutual divorce. High probability yours will too because for court it will be a trivial case. Take your loss and move on.
MI think you are a strong independent women who deserve to be treated better. You should move on with your life and lose the stress this person is causing you.I am 20 years younger to you and divorcing my husband for this exact reason. Reading your narrative i realised my husband would have put me in loop and kept cheating when ever given a chance.
MHas she mentioned alimony or are you assuming? Given you both are in same earning bracket ideally the alimony shouldn’t be in the picture.However who paid for the wedding expense? If it was entirely her family then i believe you might have to pay atleast half the amount as settlement she might ask from you.
I don’t agree with you or like your thought process but i would highly recommend go for mutual if you get the option. It’s the best thing both of you can do for yourself and don’t take this as ego war.
MIn mutual settlement amount and maintenance and alimony has to be agreed on from both the parties. Even if one party disagrees, this turns into contested.As this is arrange marriage set up, if the wedding was solely taken care of by girls family then it makes sense to pay for a settlement amount and get over with mutual. Avoid contested as much as possible.
MIf your college is cheap, apply at all banks, – pnb, icici, hdfc, sbi, bob etc. study hard and see if you can do any part time job. Your parents are not prioritising your well being at this point. I believe your mother doesn’t earn enough and your dad is an AH, but neither of them are justified to not send money for food also. Take care OP. Life is going to be teaching you alot! Wish you storm through this.MShe needs to leave and court cannot make her go back at all. Get her into therapy as well and speak to lawyers around you. I can’t comment on custody but a lawyer might be able to help.It’s a known fact that women go back atleast 7 times to their abusive partner before finally leaving. I am hoping this would be it for your sister.
MThis ideally should have a simple solution where alimony can be calculated basis existing factor and not just demanded to be a random amount. But that does needs effort and intent which our govt lags
I am a woman going through divorce and see so many other women around me suffering as well so I dont believe men are the victims. But I agree the law for alimony and child maintenance should be clear and as per requirement. It seems like women can demand any amount which is crazy.
