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NNLA, If your brother is not mentioned in chargesheet, which I am guessing he is not, since he was not arrested or interrogated, they are not part of this case. You have nothing to do with this matter. Those three guys can kick rocks. They can’t do anything about you, if you do not co-operate with them. Not sure what your parents signed, those paper mean nothing, you can always claim duress. Do not communicate directly with them, and in no circumstance accept your brother was part of it, people can record things etc. So avoid all form of communication.NMy dad started his LLb from Delhi University at age 59, a year before he was about to retire. He did well, graduated, passed bar in first attempt and is now practicing lawyer. Ofcourse its a challenge to establish a very profitable practice since it takes time. But its still positive cash flow and money was not his driver.
You can establish a practice at 40 but it will take time, in case you dont have a financial cushion, it will be difficult.
NMy dad started his LLb from Delhi University at age 59, a year before he was about to retire. He did well, graduated, passed bar in first attempt and is now practicing lawyer. Ofcourse its a challenge to establish a very profitable practice since it takes time. But its still positive cash flow and money was not his driver.You can establish a practice at 40 but it will take time, in case you dont have a financial cushion, it will be difficult.
NYou can still file for a protection order under DV act. interim protection orders are given almost immediately.NI hope you have filled case under DV act. You can make a simple application asking the court to restrain your ex from coming near you or contacting anyone in your circle. Once an order is in place, any violation is criminal offence.I will give you just one advise, divorce cases in india are like wrestling with pigs, dont get into it if you are afraid of mud. You have to develop thick skin and give back on everything they throw at you. This is not a battle for meek, its a long and difficult one. so be strong and fight it out.
NI have worked in telecom sector in the past. It is extremely difficult to get call details. You need permission from atleast DCP level office with a proper warrant. The command which gives out the details is highly restricted and only a few people are allowed. If some one does it, its a massive crime.I think your wife is lying, she may have got hold of your itemized bill with call details or through normal phone snooping. Airtel story is highly improbable.
NI am so sorry for your loss… no child should go before the parent.Only your son’s estate is responsible for the loans. If he had no assets, the loans will be written off. You have no obligation to pay the loans.
NNAL,
I was there once where you are pretty much the same scenario, except that my sister was married for 16 years when we reached the breaking point. It was 10 years ago. It took us 10 years to divorce that SOB.
here is my advice:
1. Gather proof of all abuse that your sister has gone through.
2. Record the discussion with the family and your BIL, discuss all incidents of abuse, get him to confess and promise change.
3. Have an open conversation with your sister, what does she really want, it’s tough raising two kids alone, even with your family’s support, does she work? If not how is she going to take care of kids expense. Knowing where you stand and how you would fight is important.
4. Even if she is skeptical, I would suggest going back, next time any kind of abuse happens, ask her to call police, you would be surprised police calls are recorded by default and in case there is an injury an MLC will be done.
5. In case the abuse happens, immediately file protection under dv act, and ask for interim protection, residence and maintenance. Maintenance will take time but protection orders are issued immediately.
5. In any case do not leave home, that’s a big leverage for her.
6. If the marriage is irrevocably broken, file divorce case. There is no better thing than a peaceful life .
7. Buy a good spy camera and record everything, you can discard if not relevant but record every interaction.I hope your sister can get on her own feet. Abusive marriages have just one end, death, either of marriage or the victim.
All the best, and do not get intimidated with your BIL being in police, ours was very well connected and everything, we still kicked his butt.NNALYou are getting an expensive lessons on lending money to friends.
Anyway, technical answer, best recourse for you is to send him a legal notice to return the money, if he doesn’t follow a recovery suit. Since you have the chats, you have hint of a contract. Since the amount is not too big, i hope your friend will realize the cost of fighting in court will be much more than a mutual compromise.
However, on a personal note, you will end up spending significant amount of money, if you go above path and it will be years before you see a dime. So make your choice wisely.
NMy experience is different, as parents get older, viewpoints change, especially when anger subsides and they start missing the child they raised and even more the grandkids.I prey OP’s parents forgive him eventually, and they are able to get back.
NIf self acquired, you can’t do much except litigation with your sister after his death.However, I will say this, today they are angry, you did something that you wanted and he is saying he will do something in response. People are know to come around, so instead of looking for options to claim property, I would suggest find ways to claim your parents back.
NYou are 26 and you are a medical student with only half of your education completed and you are abroad since you were 19, thats ~7 years? something doesn’t add up. I am surprised that a narcissist father sent his daughter on an all paid trip abroad for education.Anyways, unless you are in a not so good course, you should have no problem getting education loan. And if you do not have any asset, dont worry about GPA. You can always revoke it.
NOnly lesson I have learnt in my life is that you can be honest, fair and truthful while being respectful. If one stays silent on wrongs by parents, he/she only makes it worse.I agree with someone’s suggestion that all of you should sit down with your father and talk to him. Be respectful and firm, you guys are grownups and as kids grow up, you have a right to speak on what happens in your house.
All the best, i hope you guys are able to convince him to mend his ways.
