I’m not sure how are you down voted but truth is bitter, I’m not sure why the lady in question tolerated all the crap but it is not her mistake I honestly believe it, it is the family and the society who asks women to adjust and family is the biggest red flag here why did they let their daughter be with a man who wasn’t paying for anything!??? They were enabling this situation.
I’m just glad that the lady is safe and restarting her life, more power to OP