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NYour alimony matters less in this situation vs the settlement amount that you might need to pay in order for this to finish up sooner.
The court may or may not grant her huge alimony. But her filing all the respective false cases on you (expected behavior when undergoing a divorce) is to force a settlement from you.
Now it’s upto you to decide. Bear in mind, just because you get a divorce, the criminal cases filed on you will not get automatically revoked.
NSorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, just because she has an affair the courts will not rule her out of the custody arrangement especially since your kids are small. It sucks, but that is the law of the land.But you definitely have an upper hand in requesting joint custody. Show the court the proof of the affair and hire a good lawyer to argue on your behalf.
NOP you seem too naive. Why would you first stay in a place that you’re unhappy with in the first place and not start looking elsewhere at the get go.What did you gain by fighting a losing battle? Instead you should’ve sucked it up, found another job and quietly quit without burning bridges. Yes it’s hard to do with nasty people, but what did you expect the world was like?
You need professional maturity. Whistleblowing against a company will not at all help you unless they did something illegal. Withholding your documents is not exactly illegal unless you can prove it that they’re deliberately doing it to keep you unemployed.
My advice try to quietly settle this and move on.
NThere’s absolutely nothing you can do. Both prenups and postnups are not recognised in India.No matter what you agree to now, even in writing doesn’t preclude her from filing legal suits later in the future.
But instead of being a pessimist, I for sure know one thing. As long as you and your fiance love and more importantly, respect one another, you’ll pretty much be fine.
All the best!!
NWhy are people doing the same mistakes over and over again especially when there is so much awareness around right now regarding the laws in India in this regard.OP, I’m sorry you’re going through this, but until things change please educate yourself on the current issues in India. There is almost 0 upside to you if you get embroiled in a situation like this.
The best thing for you to do is talk to the girl and calm this situation down and then pack your bags and run.
And in the future be careful. Not saying you shouldn’t date or be in a relationship but do take the necessary precautions. Why do you want to gamble with your life?
NIt’s people like this for which even though our biased laws are abused , I’m sometimes glad that we have them to protect women in our country.Unfortunately, others are right. The HR is there to protect the company. What you could try is talk to the HR and instead of initiating POSH, you could try and request an internal transfer mentioning the incidents that occurred without naming anyone. But I would still be on a lookout for another job nevertheless.
It’s unfair, but it is what it is.
NThere are a lot of things that happen in Indian courts. You may need your lawyer to investigate how exactly you had representation without your consent in India. If it so happens that this was orchestrated by your wife, get a court order on this and submit that to the district attorney here in the US.This is going to completely work against your ex wife and you may even get a reprieve on your spousal support. India and US are part of The Hague convention. If you got a court judgment in the US for alimony and maintenance, you can’t claim the same in India. Get a proper lawyer and get this sorted out.
Are you a US citizen? If the marriage lasted only 10 days, you could prove immigration fraud as well and she would be in big trouble.
NWhat documents are these? There’s nothing your brother can do if the documents are legit in your name especially education or property related documents. I’m not exactly sure what your brother is trying to do here, but you don’t have anything to worry about. Like others have pointed out, you can always get a replacement document for everything as long as you furnish identification.NThe law makes the argument that alimony needs to be paid to the spouse (in India, it’s more often than not, the wife) because he/she helped contribute to the marriage and assets that were built during the course of the marriage. And hence, equitable division in the form of marriage is necessary since cheating in a marriage is not illegal anymore.Personally, I feel that’s a crock of shit. It’s very rare that a woman in India will marry a man that has less assets than her. And I’m honestly not sure what modern women bring to the table in the marriage. All they do is whine and whine. Almost every man feels this way. Do you really think MacKenzie Bezos deserved $32 billion of alimony from Jeff Bezos. She is not qualified to even take up the post of a CEO and the CEO of Amazon, Andy Jassy, one of the smartest people alive takes home only $30 million and he runs a trillion dollar company. What does MacKenzie Bezos do again?
NHe doesn’t need to come to India to get visa stamped. He can go to any country that has a US embassyNFirst and foremost go and secure an anticipatory bail from the high court, if possible. This will almost certainly diffuse the situation and dissuade her from filing the fake case as now police cannot arrest you or your family. After that, confront her in front of her family and ask for a mutual consent divorce. Tell her the reason.As much as possible, try to handle it in a civic manner. Don’t get her agitated or make her defensive. And then, file for the mutual consent divorce and get it done in 6 months.
All the best OP.
NOn one end we have cases like these and on the other end there are cases like Atul Subhash.. Our country is going to dogs .. 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️But on the main note, I’m sorry your friend is going through this OP. Please note, if you file legal cases, there’s almost no saving the marriage if that’s what she wants.
But at the same time, her in laws and husbands demands are atrocious. She needs to make the decision for herself as to what she wants from this. Perhaps a counselling session would help?
I would advise against some of the comments that are quick to say divorce. Divorcee’s life in India is HARD!! Being a single parent in India is HARD. My sister is a divorcee and I know first hand what she goes through everyday.
