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RWhat it means is unless you cannot prove that any action like termination happened after the employer gained knowledge of pregnancy even implicitly, then the law wouldn’t be able to help you much.
So, at times the best action to do is to inform them formally as soon as you know and they can’t have bogus excuses.
For now, find proofs around the fact that some people in immediate hierarchy knew about the pregnancy before she was added to PIP, connect with a lawyer so that he can verify that proofs are enough evidence in court.
It could become difficult for you if the employer can prove that they put her on PIP before knowing of her pregnancy => vouching that her performance was not satisfactory before, so, they can probably take action.
RDon’t join in those terms unless you are in a totally desperate situation with no other options.You can say you didn’t like the contact and your lawyer wants to have a chat.. Either they negotiate and remove unnecessary clauses or you drop.
RInteresting read. Much better arguments.. Most of the statements do make sense.If you are not pro prostitution, it makes sense that you’ll also dislike surrogacy. If I make an emotional decision then I may also have such biases.
An important aspect missing from your analysis is there is a risk reward calculation here. In future when TFR tanks to below 1.5, more women choose to delay pregnancy until 35 and most marriages break down like in the West (most kids are living in single mom households which have statistical disadvantages and higher crime rates), we’ll anyway go for legalising surrogacy so that people have an alternative.
Every job or service has it’s risks, even then we allow it with proper regulations like the workers in coal mines where they get exploited and get black lungs or workers losing lives or limbs, etc. For a risk to few workers if we started slashing entire jobs then there will be no economy.
Even adoption (though not a service exactly) has risks.
Even OF/cam work (safest sex work?) has it’s risks. One that comes to my mind instantly is that as the income disparity is very huge, it exponentially incentivizes women to perform more extravagant acts because that’s human nature to compete and also human nature for customers to get bored and seek more drastic dopamine hits, so, riskier activities. Top 1% would be getting paid decent and rest very low and there would be heavy platform cuts, manager cuts, etc which will grow. Even, quick money has its own disadvantages too. OF also has casting couch and coerced casting or fraudulently advertised casting instances.
My points – Surrogacy has more advantages than prostitution. If prostitution can be legal then by the same logic surrogacy should be too. We see that even when surrogacy is illegal there is a black market for it, so, similar to how prostitution was de-illegalized and regulatory guidelines issued, so, should be for surrogacy. We anyways have the disadvantages of commercial surrogacy even now but just worst situations for the workers due to lack of proper regulations for it.
Yeah legalization doesn’t by default mean better conditions but rather better regulations is the way. They should be digitalised and tracked swiftly.
Govt should come up with minimum payments (say 20L/50L) and also insurance obligations and abortion rights for surrogates. It would also be easy job to track who took up surrogacy/ was pregnant and when and how many times in a decade due to insurance company and hospitals keeping records.
Current regulations are pretty strict but a lot of them are illogical. Laws are mostly always like that because there is always legacy baggage our representatives don’t give it enough logical thought.
Only a close relative (sister, sister-in-law) can be a surrogate—no payment allowed. => why not compensate someone who provides you with a service? Anyways, even in case of close relatives too there will be payments involved.
already have a child (to prove she’s not desperate) => someone
with kid is more likely to be desperate as we have elastic expenditures bit kids would need stuff like education, would catch diseases often, etc.There is also a current bias in laws where divorced and widowed women are allowed surrogacy while divorced and widowed men are not as if women don’t exploit other women or kids. We are just creating more disgruntled and disenfranchised men as a result of these biases.
RYou just out that surrogacy and prostitution, if made illegal will happen through back channels and there would be no rules and more exploitation. So, which means making it legal will have no extra disadvantages.RThose can be added into regulations. Anyways women are allowed to abort with permission from part DNA donor so, legally that remains IG, just that her payment can have issues. For lifelong complications there can be insurance premiums borne by the legal parent. So, the insurance company bears the costs in case of future issues.RI didn’t get your arguments. Can you help?Let’s say there are proper regulations for surrogacy that a woman can become a surrogate once every 4/5yrs, is it still exploitation?
PFC getting fully developed at 26, so, better decision making is a fallacy as the pre frontal cortex develops until around 27 and then deteriorates and we consider 35yo generally more capable to make decisions than even 27yo.
RIt seems couples counseling or divorce are only possibilities.Did you try to know what’s on his mind? Is he bonkers or ashamed?
R2. How does someone know if the kid is his own without a DNA test unless you have been not having sex for an extended time while she got pregnant? Do you think she would not try to bed the guy once she knows she is pregnant (unless he is sure of her records like date of pregnancy, etc, he wouldn’t know and Even trying to get those medical records are against her privacy)? The courts are doing severe willful dis-service to justice in the name of privacy and protection of the kid by not allowing paternity tests.RGet a private detective. Try to find evidence of her going to meet him in a hotel. Very likely that there will be people seeing them going in and out and can notice the vehicle details, etc.AFAIK, this is the best evidence like some records in the hotel. They try to forge but you can threaten the hotelier to get the police to check his forgery of the records.
ROMG.. I thought lawyers would be able to handle such stuff, maybe sue the people troubling them but No.RMostly it’s a trap but in case you choose to be delinquent then what happens if you need to go back in case of your parents or any other stuff..Get in touch with a good lawyer and file 482 in the High Court for quashing of the case.
Most false cases trip on their own lies while trying to manufacture evidence. Get hold of the date time etc details.
You need to get hold of your tickets and other stuff like say you went to a friend’s house, then their apartment’s register will have a record or if you went to watch a movie or other such stuff.RAgreed and that’s what is happening at present. There are other issues in the judiciary as a whole though.The real problem is we don’t have proper psychological tests for psychopathy. Personally I feel psychopaths who have acted out (most of the major criminals are psychopaths) need minimum life imprisonment and the rule of rarest of rare for capital punishment can’t apply there. However, nothing much can be done until the soft sciences find stronger processes.
