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February 8, 2025 at 5:43 pm

Let me tell you from the story from other end. I was the girl who called off her marriage one month before the date I was supposed to be married. It was not an easy decision as all the shopping was done and invites were ready. I was engaged 9 months ago in a huge ceremony which hundreds of relatives attended so everyone knew the marriage was due.
Through the courtship period, I never felt any sort of connection with the guy. Initially I thought since it is arrange marriage we both have our reservations. But we never communicated openly. I brought it up to the guy a few times that I would like to get to know him better before we get married because I do not want to marry a total stranger. Despite this things did not change. I kept on thinking it will improve I just have to give it some more time.
But as the time came closer to get married to him, I just could not. I couldn’t get myself to do it and it scared me. Thinking of staying with someone who never regarded my concerns. There were too many things that I wanted to discuss with him before we got married and I told him but he just dismissed them all.

It caused a lot of distress and trauma. It was difficult decision and I was under a lot of stress and pressure from both the families. But I stood my ground as it was my life at stake. It took a lot of time for my family to come around the fact and I am glad they finally decided to support me(unwillingly).

There are numerous factors when it comes to taking a decision like this. From emotional compatibility to values and beliefs both people should be on the same page. If there is any doubt it is always better to walk away from any sort of commitment. I am not sure how the situation was between them but if there is even 0.1% doubt that it will not work it is better to not go through with it.
It is better to go through this stress before one gets married than spoil the life not only yours but the other persons and the two families as well.

Honestly walking out from a marriage is better than staying/getting in one which causes distress.

I know a girl’s family has to face too many things when something like this happens. I am not a lawyer so there might be some legal action that you can take. But according to me you should just be glad that you go to know when you got to know. People cancel the wedding at the mandap when the barat walks in because guy is drunk or they demand dowry or they misbehave.
All that you feel right now is just momentary. The money spend will also come back but if it would have been a wrong decision it would have haunted for life.
Just think that if the marriage happens with wrong person you will spend more on the court proceeding on divorce and will be under for more stressful situations.

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