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UNAL.
Begin recording each and everything of what happens now. Install CCTVs if needed. Filing divorce would be good but with evidence is even better. Be ready for fake cases from her but do tell your brother and your entire family not to talk with her and not to involve in any fights as she will record it to show how your family is abusing her, give her no evidence. That way even if she files fake cases she won’t have any evidence. Be ready for few years of court battle but that will save your brother’s life.
U>I’m not stating an opinion. I am stating that it is within the legal ambit of dowry.>*A demand being made for unequal contribution to the wedding expenses by the groom’s side is within the legal ambit of dowry.*
Even a needle demanded forcefully can be considered dowry. That is not what the post says. The post says that the parents are pressurizing their own son about them being unhappy about the give and take. Merely being unhappy about something doesn’t account to be a crime specifically in reference to this post.
>Is he being demanded to take over wedding expenses?
The post doesn’t mention that so neither can be concluded.
>Is there a cultural or traditional expectation placed on him?
As I mentioned, it is a worldwide cultural or traditional expectation that the bride’s side takes care of wedding expenses, which is gradually changing which is a step in the right direction.
>The guy doesn’t have to if he doesn’t want to?
The girl too doesn’t have to if she doesn’t want to, she has options too. Don’t tell me its societal pressure, then that means you willingly commit a crime (of giving dowry in terms of wedding expenses) and then cry victim, thats not done.
>Giving dowry is also an offense, albeit giving dowry under pressure and demand? Context matters.
The post doesn’t say that at all (Re: demanding), you are talking out of context here.
>I am not getting married to this family or such a family. I don’t understand why you are raising ad hominem responses. Lol.
My bad, I meant to use “you” in general, as in, third person, not literally you yourself, that could be confusing I get it.
NAL but had enough run-ins with several of them.
UThat’s your opinion, but the fact doesn’t change. If you are not ok with the expectation then why get married to that family? Hypothetically if you consider wedding expense as dowry and if guys side pays it all, what would that be? Also, giving dowry is also an offense so if the wedding goes through and bride paid for it, she committed a crime willingly.U“Legally” it is not dowry TBH. Its customary in several nations that bride’s side pays the expenses, however, things are changing where both parties share the expenses, but legally it is not considered dowry anywhere. Ofcourse, Indians spend insane amounts in marriage (which is stupid) compared to any other nation so the money value is high, but again, not dowry.UIf marriage expense bore by bride’s side is dowry then most of the world including developed nations are committing this crime. It is not dowry FOR SURE.UWTF, “39M married two kids” makes you what exactly? Ironically, That’s a brain dead comment to say the least.UI don’t agree there. how can court favor woman when the law is so clear … alimony goes 50-50 from both of their assets. If wife isn’t working even then she gets an equitable contribution. Children also are given equal visitation rights unless one of the parents is a coke head. Yes it could be a hassle untangling the mixed assets but that’s a technical problem.I have yet to see a case where woman filed a fake case against husband in US and husband was jailed.. usually wife goes to jail after the trial if so found. Also, courts there aren’t based on “she said”, it’s all evidence. Atleast that’s what my reading, friends living abroad and personal talks with folks there have told me.
UI believe bad as in many ? Remember, They got prenups and also their structure of alimony is crystal clear so even before marriage you would know what would happen if and when divorce happens. So it’s a known thing to the couple that they can’t cheat the system. Biggest thing… it’s gender neutral.
