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UThat is hard to say. If heās simply avoiding you then the legal notice might act as a nudge and either heād get his own lawyer to respond or try to mediate with you. In the former case it might get dragged a bit and both of you would incur costs. But if heās ready for mediation then you might hope for a quicker resolution.
But if heās ready to take you for a ride and has no intention of paying you back then it will drag on as you file a police complaint and go for a civil suit.
UCost depends on the city youāre in and the kind of lawyer you choose. Sending a legal notice is not expensive, however filing a civil suit might cost some more.I am not sure what did you mean by practicality.
UNALYou had done a lot of mistakes by lending the money in this manner. However try these steps:
1. Legal notice:
– Send a formal legal notice through a lawyer detailing the loan, evidence, and repayment demands.
– This often prompts settlement as it shows serious intent to pursue legal action.
– Keep proof of delivery of the notice.2. Civil suit options:
– File a money recovery suit under Order XXXVII of Civil Procedure Code.
– You should name both your friend and the account holder to whom you transferred the money as parties to your suit.
– The digital evidence chain (chats + transaction + followups) can be presented as evidence.3. Police complaint (fall back option if the above two arenāt working):
– File a written complaint if thereās any suspected fraud here.
– This is especially relevant given the potential āmule accountā concern that you have.
– This can help create additional documentary evidence of the attempt to recover your money.4. Mediation:
– Consider using lok adalat or other mediation services, as a last resort.
– These are typically less expensive and faster than full blown litigations.
– Can result in legally binding settlement.Practical steps to follow:
1. Document all future communications like you have been doing in the past.
2. Avoid accepting cash payments as mentioned (wise precaution).
3. Gather all digital evidence including:
– Bank statements
– Screenshot of UPI transactions
– All relevant chat history
– Call records
4. Get these records notarized to strengthen their evidentiary value.UI donāt see them misusing it under normal circumstances. I am guessing youāve okay shared your six / twelve months bank statement in a PDF format?UFirst of all, you seem to be a nice human being who is being torn between practicality and genuine sentiments. While I canāt tell you what you should do I can give you some viewpoints.1. Before taking any decisions on behalf of anybody always think of long term consequences. Down the road there are high chances that your mother or father might blame you for their physical separation and mention that it was not something they had wanted. Will you be strong enough to stand your ground that time?
2. Typically in Indian middle class families āvaluesā are prioritized over peace. Thatās one of the main reasons women who are in abusive relationships do not want to move out. Your mother being from that generation would struggle to see logic in this decision and still wonāt agree for this. You must think about this first, will she really be happy if she moves out with you?
3. The guilt you feel for doing this to your father because of the good times you had will be there lifelong if you decide to pull the trigger. While your practical side would tell you that you had done the right thing, the other side of your mind will always ask you āwhat-if?ā Be ready for that conflict within your mind and be strong enough to remain practical.
4. Do you feel there would be problem in getting your sister married if the separation happens? After all these things are still big deals in Indian societies. What does your sister say and feel about this?
5. Will your father be able to live on his own if the separation happens? If this is inevitable then perhaps you might need to make some arrangements for his comforts and safety. There will be a recurring financial obligation as well.
USure thing. Just make sure to provide as much details as possible while filing your grievance, like bills, documents, proof of communication with the courier company .. whatever. Remember, the courier company will counter the allegations, so the more proofs you can produce the stronger is your case.UIt took around two weeks (if I remember correctly) after filing the complaint. Apparently the delivery guy ran away with my package and marked it ādeliveredā. Eventually they came and delivered it saying it was āmisplacedā. Bunch of thieves.UOP can add fake travel details, the travel agency would know itās fake, but how would people reading those posts know that?This too can be mastered if done smartly. Donāt wait to disclose it here as itās unethical. But for jerks like this travel agent these techniques come in handy.
UIf youāre worried about his political muscle power, do this:
1. Delete your review
2. Wait for two weeks
3. Open a new email address and give a bad review. Do not share any information about your trip experience that can be traced back to you.
4. Wait for 7-10 days.
5. Repeat step #3.
6. Repeat steps #3 and #4.
