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1. Scenario 1 – There was a case where the husband provided video evidence of his wife with another man in a hotel room and the court dismissed the evidence saying they might have been morphed.
2. Scenario 2 – Atul Shubash is dead and his wife is enjoying corporate life with no consequences
3. Scenario 3 – The Raghuvanshi girl who killed her husband is out of jail just after serving 6 months.
4. Scenario 4 – The Goa CEO woman who killed her kid so that her husband wouldnt get to see him, never went to jail.
In India, being a woman is a free license to commit any kind of crimes with 0 consequences. None of the criminal laws are gender neutral. There’s always differential punishment and women can take advantage of that at will. You know your wife well. If you think she is not being accountable or regretful of her actions, she has already contemplated all the consequences and prepared for everything. Sit and talk with her for an amicable solution. You can go for divorce, but you are gonna lose more than what you get.
BNAL. But the police have caused more injustice compared to lawyers. And thatās due to very little fault of their own. Public opinion comes from what they see in the media and most of the times, itās so far from the truth. If the police do their job properly in collecting and processing evidence, no amount of flair from the defence lawyer will protect the accused from prosecution, provided the system isnāt corrupt. Just because the police think they are sure the accused did it, doesnāt make it true. And in India, they donāt have the resources or protocol to do that. Most police stations look like public toilets and their record keeping is worse than an elementary school.BHereās a life hack. Get a life insurance. Usually thereās a clause that says, the insurance will be void if you commit suicide within 1 year. Make Your mom or dad or both nominees. Write down all the outrageous ways you have thought of making money. Try a few of them. If you succeed in some and end up making money, do some of the stuff in Your bucket list. Use this 1 year to make a detailed will and leave proper instructions and disclaimers. Maybe even write an autobiography. See you in an year.BIt finally comes to you and how you view it. You still didnt answer my question at all. At what point do you consider your sister married to him? And how is it cheating? And how sure are you that he didnt tell her about it earlier and it was she who was dragging it till last week and got pissed when he broke it off altogether? The recording was from they were together at an even, and if he hadnt told her about his wedding, what was her intention to record it? He knew that girl for 1 year and he met your sister 3 months back. Would you expect him to drop a girl who he knows well for a girl he just met? What if he had second thoughts about your sister and took a well-informed decision after getting to know her for 3 months?There are people who make themselves completely free before looking for marriage and there are people who are in temporary relationships before they find someone tangible. If your sister thinks she deserves someone of the first kind, its fair. Just drop it off and find a new person. Or if she found other red flags with him when she talked to him all these months. Second option is for her to confront him and take a well-informed decision after hearing his side. In any case, the only person who’s getting out of this unscathed is the girl who called your sister. You will have to explain all your relatives about why you are cancelling the wedding and so does the groom.
So, my final 2 cents are, you can just avoid all the drama by calling off the wedding. YOu might end up saving your sister from a possible cheater or tarnishing the credibility of a normal person, but you will never know. Or you can find the truth about what happened and if your sister had no other issues with the guys so far, she will be missing out on a possible good guy because some girl wanted some drama. Imagine him calling of the wedding because some guy called the groom and told him that your sister is involved with him and the groom didnt even decide to hear your sisters side of the story and the reason for cancellation will be what that guy told him. Its up to you.
BOk, Iām gonna play the devilās advocate here. First case, itās just a word of mouth from a girl. And the recording is from an event and not when they were private. Their relationship is just 1 year old. Your sister is having an arranged marriage, heās not under any obligation to be exclusive to Your sister. The marriage is only finalised, the engagement is yet to happen. He broke up with her promptly before that, with no intention to continue the relationship with her. Itās obvious the other girl is pissed and maybe jealous. This would be more serious if he wanted to continue the relationship while being married to your sister.So, if you think this is wrong, are you insinuating that your partner shouldnāt have had any relationships in the past? If you say once the marriage is finalised they should be exclusive, would that mean they could live as husband and wife right after finalising? If you say engagement or marriage Iād the line, why does the line work different for different aspects? In the end, itās an arranged marriage.
BFor the record, there have been several instances where women have been given the death penalty, but it has never been carried out in India. No matter how serious the crime is, women get leeway and lesser punishments for the same crimes. The courts decision is right since this was not an emotional crime. It was planned and premeditated, she spend months of research and multiple attempts to succeed. Pretty sure sheāll move forward to a higher court and get the punishment reduced. Thereās Suchana Seth, the child murderer, whoās still on bail citing insanity, although all evacuations have confirmed that she was mentally sound. Shabnam Ali who was sentenced to death in 2010 for killing 7 family members is still alive and her sentence isnāt carried out yet. Itās a welcome decision by the justice system, but the execution is much more important than the judgement.BSexual assault is not about how violent it is. Itās about violation of oneās autonomy and ignorance of consent. Are you insinuating that rape is ok if the victim didnāt get hurt?BNAL.Talk with a lawyer and try negotiating with Your husband for mutual divorce. Also, you might get custody of the children. Donāt decide based on Your present condition. Go for it, if you donāt get it, it is what it is. Also itās stupid to ask for the money spent on marriage, festivals etc. He can easily say he spent more on maintaining the household, you and the children. Make sure you have all Your jewellery, and any accounts of how much money was given as dowry. Mutual is the fastest. But you can also file the domestic violence and dowry cases first, if itās genuine in Your case and then use it to leverage him into a mutual divorce.
BNAL.The laws of POSCO can need bent is a few ways. Just remember, of a girl is under 18, sheās almost always a victim even if she does things consensually. Because the age of consent is 18 and as she is not 18, she could not give legally valid consent. On the other hand, the boy can be charged with sexual assault, rape and sex with a minor, even if he himself is under 18, if the girl is also a minor. Because even consensual sex is statutory rape, since the girl hasnāt attained age of consent. And due to many heinous acts committed in the past by underage boys, the law had been changed to treat boys older than 16 as adults depending on the nature if the crime and courts generally assume boys of all ages are capable of aggression. He gets victim treatment in POSCO only if the girl is older than 18.
Legally, i donāt think the court recognises any relationships except marriage. But in terms of legal retributions, the age of the girl plays a major role.
BCyber crime in India is a joke. Even if you give them the phone number and address of the scammer, they wonāt do anything. If you go there, youāll get a lecture on how your brother is a sex maniac and how Your parents have failed him.One year ago, i lost like 7k via paytm. I received a call stating that a transaction of 1L has been made from my among and Iāll have to press 1 to allow and 2 to deny. I pressed 2 and then it asked for otp. My mistake was entering that otp. My reasons for doing it, itās common for banks to have automated calls that call and confirm the transaction. Paytm uses the otp verification system when you want to talk to a customer care executive. They cloned my Paytm account, linked it to their Airtel phone number and stole money using Paytm postpaid.
Paytm interface is so bad that it took me 6 hours to block my account and was not able to connect to any customer care executive at all for more than 2 days. I sent them an email and they replied āyou entered the otp, your faultā. I went to cybercrime and they looked at my entire phone and gave me an entire lecture about how chinese apps are stealing data and using it to run scams. I told him in paytm logs, the last usage data of the other person is UP. He continued to reaffirm that they use gps cloners, ai generated voices etc. Then he just told me i lost my money because i had clash of clans in my phone and if i had PUBG, he would have arrested me instead. His final advice is āitās just 7k, there are people who lose 7L in a day. Consider yourself lucky and move onā.
BNAL,What did you mean by āwe were supposed to live independently?ā And āhe got too comfortableā. Since you wanted a separate house, how much were you willing to contribute for the purchase of this new House? On what grounds have you applied divorce? I see an entitled woman who left her matrimonial home for pregnancy and didnāt return for 3 whole years. Who has been using lies and coercion to force a man to leave his parents.
But, no worries. The Indian justice system is flawed. 99% times women get custody of the children unless he proves gross lapses in Your capacity to be a parent.
