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UIf the person does not show up for the hearings, the divorce is granted ex-parte. I think that takes like 2-3 years. How is this going on for 20 years? Like does she show up and say no? I mean most competent lawyers and even the judge will grant divorce if the couple stay away for more than 3 years. Does she have connections?UIād say a majority of Indian women are still traditional and do suffer. They may lie but they are not necessarily vile. But the other 20% unfortunately is what we see take advantage of the law. Itās a sad reality. And the country who did operation sindhoor fails to see how these legal terrorists are about to send the country into a civil war.UNo. Iām not talking about curative measures. Iām talking about preventive measures. When the air you breathe is contagious and you can not get out of the atmosphere (I.e. the country), purifying that air will prevent others from doing the same stupid things- which essentially is a preventive measure.UI think itās not about 3 months or 3 years. Prevention is better than cure- yes. But not in this case. Iāve seen plenty of cases where the woman and her family are sweet with the guy and his family before marriage for years (love marriage) and 2 months into the marriage the girl leaves unilaterally and files cases. Thatās the trend. The women who are psychotic know that law is with them. And a switch flips in their head after marriage. Literally a majority of cases post 2020- the marriage is less than 2 months but the court battle is ongoing for 5 years. We are not even talking about cases with child involved. Or someone who was married for 10 years And completely dependent on husband.UItās same all over India. End of the day it comes to morals of the girl and her family. If she wants a life with someone else, they cut it off quickly, minimize losses, and move on. If they are sadistic- the guy will be free and he will find someone, but the girl is left to be alone.UAt this point unless someone from her side comes to talk, there is nothing you can do. The divorce though- she should come to court. Or after a certain time, the judge will give divorce upon repeated absence.
As for DV and such- she wonāt be given anything unless thereās significant disparity. Pursue on merits. The reason she is not coming forward is because she is trying to make you feel this way. At someone point her own age will catch up with her and they will come forward. So be patient and wait.
NAL. Ask one- this is probably close to what they will say.
UYou once again make a hypocritical argument that only women cook. This is not 1990ās. Businesses like Zomato are successful because most women now eat out. Step out of your traditional women who is abused at home view. Go into society. Pick any newly wed couple. I will say majority (my majority I mean more than 80%) say they do not live with in-laws. In 2 years from now, itās the same woman will initiate a bunch of fake cases if marriage goes south. The best example I can give you Atul Subash. The sad reality is that most cases today are those.Uhttps://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/blogs/toi-editorials/women-misusing-domestic-violence-law-data-tells-a-very-different-story/https://www.jneonatalsurg.com/index.php/jns/article/view/3496/3159
https://feministlawarchives.pldindia.org/wp-content/uploads/498A-Report-for-NCW-final.pdf
The third one is the best. Shows how many cases are just false. This is from 2005-2009. And you can google for the recent rise in false cases.
UYour argument is hypocritical. Do you want the woman to be modern or do you want them to be traditional? Women who work are expected to do housework too- but thatās what is said. The reality is women who work have working husbands who help with housework. Thatās not said. And your comment about women living with in-laws? Most women post marriage donāt live with in laws. They move and have their own independent house. You bring a view that is consistent with 1980ās. Post 2000, most married couples have their own independent home. So adjustment to other home is a weak argument. Like I said, the 70% you see above- they have their own house. No in-laws.I have several work colleagues. You know what their biggest gripe is? That their husband does not do a,b,cā¦etc that the other ladyās husband does. Each and everyone of them somehow say that their husbands are useless. And they run the family. They do all the housework. But the moment their car breaks down- who do they call? Their husband. The moment power goes out, who do they call? Their husband. A husband is a useless person till he has a use. But most men, that I know, donāt talk about their wives to their friends. So yeah.
Op might be delusional, but the reality is majority of false cases are initiated within 2 years of marriage. Stats prove this. And they do it with ulterior motives of getting a higher alimony. And yes- the 70% stat I said is very true as 70% of the cases are initiated by so called independent women. I am not talking about women in 10 year marriage with 1-2 children. Iām talking about women who have no children. 50 out of that 70% is the same cases. I donāt lie. Statistics prove that.
UWoman are told to adjust more is a very arbitrary statement. Men adjust too. Thatās not shown or talked about. Divorce is happening not because woman are adjusting less. They are not adjusting at all because the law favors them. And they are given a gun while the man is given nothing.You raise a very important point about woman leaving the workforce. But if you go sample the same random majority of men I spoke above, more than 70% are working wives. Even in the case of Op, his wife is working. What do you say to that? Like a marriage of 1 year gives her the right to 40 years of same lifestyle in the marriage that she did not enjoy for the first 20-30 years of her life?
UI didnāt say every woman, did I? If you need a reality check go to a divorce court, and ask a random sample of men what cases they are fighting- they will say dowry harassment, DV, outraging modesty at the minimum. Itās not about the manās capability or incapability. My question is very simple: why is a capable woman harassing for alimony when she can go earn her living? I can show you countless examples where the woman has MBA/ LLB/ MBBS- and still come to court and demand alimony for a marriage that didnāt even last 1 year. Why? Because they didnāt want to adjust and wanted the guy to give up everything. So yeah- I have every right to generalize and say women do this in divorce cases becauseā¦most of them do. And generalization talks about the majority, not everyone.UDo the economics. If itās a short marriage, I would just initiate the divorce. Indian women and their lawyers are nothing less than scum.UChange your job first. Wait a year. Then file for divorce. Contested divorces take 2-3 years. Be prepared for that. Unless itās a onetime settlement, your wife can always approach the court for change in circumstances.UNAL- consult one.You can challenge, but it will be a moot point. Ancestral property that has been partitioned loses its ancestral aspect and becomes self acquired property of the individual. If he willingly gifted to the aunt, then by self acquired property rules, it is her property now. As for his lack of a will, any property that he has becomes part of the pot that his kids and grandchildren have shares.
